I’m currently reading a very interesting book called “The subtle art of not giving a fuck”. A very interesting book I might add.
This book takes most of the common self-help/motivational agenda that we find in the books and send it down the drain.
One thing that I’ve read yesterday made me to wrote this article.
Most of use are pretty average at most things we do[…] That’s just the nature of life. To become truly great at something, you have to dedicate shit-tons of time and energy to it. And because we all have limited time and energy, few of us ever become truly exceptional at more than one thing, if anything at all.
And thus came my realization that me and my life are pretty average. And I’m actually OK with in at the moment.
The big illusion that most of us have, me included, it’s that we are extraordinary or exceptional. And entitled to everything. But it reality that is not true.
Being extraordinary takes time and sweat, and effort, and a lot of implication, and doing the things right. Because you can spend a lot of time doing something, but doing everything wrong. And that’s not extraordinary, that’s plain stupid.
Most of the time I had the illusion that I was exceptional, that everything would be great if I did this and that. But, instead of doing the actions I just spent thinking on how my life would change if I would do those actions, dreaming with my eyes open. And that’s not exceptional at all.
So I’m average, and that’s OK. It’s OK, because average it’s not bat at all. How many people in this world are average? The vast majority are. Some are above average, some are below, but the bell curve contains the vast majority of the people as average.
Being average doesn’t mean that I failed at my life, or that I’m a failure. I’m just me, with good things and bad things. And accepting that makes me feel quite good. It’s who I am.
Maybe with time I will exit the average state, and I will go being the exceptional person that I day dream about. If I will work on improving myself and dedicate my time to achieve my goals, maybe.
But for now I’m just an average guy, with an average guy. And for now, that’s OK.